We Don't Communicate!

I often find that couples misunderstand the role of the divorce mediator. For example, I recently met with a couple who had decided to end their marriage. Unfortunately, the Husband felt that they should work out the terms of their separation before they began mediation. I say unfortunately, because one of the reasons they were ending their marriage was because of their inability to communicate which is something I could have helped them do. I have not heard from them in several weeks and only hope they have not allowed this misunderstanding to lead them into a court battle.

How to Manage Conflict

When a married couple is locked in conflict, it may seem strange to suggest that they sit down together and determine HOW they want to deal with that conflict. But they should! Because how they deal with their conflict will determine HOW WELL their lives will be after the conflict is over. If they decide to manage their conflict together, perhaps with the assistance of a neutral third person such as a Divorce Mediator, they will stay in control of the outcome and prevent outsiders such as lawyers and judges from making decisions that will impact their lives. And staying in control will allow them to manage their lives better once the conflict has ended.